Hydrocephalus: For all those who will be spending Christmas in hospital…my heart goes out to you.

Sun will shine

As Christmas is on the horizon, I think of all the parents and children who are going through a challenging time with their Hydrocephalus. For all those who will be spending Christmas in hospital…my heart goes out to you. However, I pray that the time together will be the silver lining for you. I pray also, that you recover and heal fully and can soon put this time behind you.

It’s never easy when the person you love has to endure pain or suffering. It’s not easy watching a child you love more than life itself, and have so much hopes and dreams of a bright future for…seem as if they are facing the end. Remaining positive is just about the hardest thing you ever have to do and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel is not easy…I know. For sanity’s sake…you need to push through and expect the best, no matter what. If you feel that this is unfair, if you are angry, then allow yourself to feel that way. Let the emotion play itself out and let it subside – you are allowed.

At times like these, I realize just how lucky I am to have my family around me…I am thankful that I get to spend another Christmas with them.

We come into this world with nothing and we will leave this world with nothing. However, the people around us, the one’s who touch our lives deeply…will always remain imprinted on our hearts. If you or a loved one, is currently facing the unknown of yet another brain surgery, take heed in the fact that the sun will shine again for you. Seasons change literally from one day to the next. You might be feeling like it’s all gloomy at the moment but the sun WILL shine again for you. This will be a time when you can sit and look back on…and be thankful that you made it through.

The world carries on outside regardless of time standing still for you within those hospital walls. This seems to be a cruel reality. But, the next Christmas will be yours…a time when you will be thankful for all that you have and this time, right now, will become a distant memory. The gloom of this moment, will be overpowered by the joy of the days to come.

Do not become disheartened. Do not give up. Do not let this one moment in life, determine the rest of what’s left.

Hydrocephalus is a condition, which we have no control over. I think it’s safe to assume that everyone touched by this condition pretty much hates it’s guts. Take a stand against it. Show it you will not give in, will not succumb and will not go down without putting up the fight of your life. Take what it throws at you, keep your head up high and walk away, knowing that you gave it your all.

I pray that this festive season, you find the things that matter most to you. And, know that somewhere in the world, someone is thinking about you and cares about what you are going through…right now…because I do.

 

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It’s one week to go to Christmas. Have you found what’s most important to you?

ChristmasI’m sitting this morning and reflecting on how things have changed since I was a child. There’s been a definite shift in how I see or view what’s important at this time of the year. I’ve crossed paths with so many people…people from different backgrounds, circumstances and beliefs. A time when so many celebrate the birth of Christ that has made us thankful for this time of the year. A time where others, who do not subscribe to the belief of Christ and religion…celebrate this time of year for different reasons. It’s a celebration nonetheless. Regardless of what we do or do not believe in…we have one thing in common.

It’s a time of giving, a time for sharing, a time to spend with loved one’s but more importantly…a time to be thankful.

There are so many things that I am thankful for. And, it’s the things that cost nothing, which mean the most to me. It’s the fact that someone takes the time to do a selfless deed for me, the fact that others take time out of their busy day to make my life easier. The phone call or text message just to say “Hi. How are you?”.

I love Christmas and I love giving but it is also very stressful. I wish I had all the money in the world to buy gifts for all the people in my life just to show them how special they are to me. Unfortunately, I don’t have that kind of money and it frustrates me at times. However, this week, I decided that there must be an inexpensive way to show a few people in my life, that I appreciate them too. A way to say “Thank you for being there at a time when I needed it most. There’s a select few people who have over the last couple of years, been a real support system to me. I decided to bake some biscuits and bottle them up. This is no real big deal right? However, this idea soon delivered a challenge of it’s own but I was determined to get through it.

I mixed up the batter for my batch of biscuits and just as I was about to press them out onto the pan using my cookie gun/press…it broke! This was not the way I had planned for things to go, in fact, it was a nightmare to do. This particular biscuit recipe, is not one that can just be rolled out, pressed and placed into a baking tray. It took some serious improvisation to get these cookies baked and I literally stood in the kitchen over a two day period making them. I went to the shop to return my broken cookie gun/press, hoping to get a replacement so I could continue the next day but they had none in stock. I knew I needed to get the rest of my biscuits done if I was going to make up the rest of my gift list as I really want to deliver these biscuits today. I soldiered on and in the end, I have an end product and am looking forward to visiting these special people in my life. They have no idea that I am coming and when I look at each jar of cookies, I think, it’s really not such a big deal. Then I remind myself, I have made these with every good intention and put so much love, energy and time into them…I just know that it will be appreciated. The smile on their faces will be “thanks” enough for me.

 The end result

 This year, Christmas for me, is about showing the people in my life just how much they mean to me. It’s about letting them know that, even though I might not always say it or show it, I do love and appreciate them for who they are. We all contribute in one way or the other, no matter how big or small, to the next person. Being thankful for what you have and more especially the people you have in your life, is key to a happy life.

Have you found what’s most important to you at this time of year?

I hope and pray you will all have a blessed and Merry Christmas.

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Make time for yourself, your life and your loved ones

Time

A few months ago, I read a post (Productivity Tip #2 – Schedule your time (and stick to it)), by my fellow blogger friend, Terence Brown of Help Grow Change

After reading, I set a challenge before myself and decided I would give it a go…In doing so, I found time I never knew I had!

I have always been one to do things for everyone else with never enough time or energy left for myself. I think there is a reason why today’s title is in the order that it’s set out. All 3 these things are important. How many times have you heard the saying, “You can’t do anything for anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first“?

Well, before I took on the challenge, I was of the strong opinion that “I don’t have time to do anything else“. So I made a few changes…

  • I changed my attitude towards not having any time to saying I have time.
  • My mindset changed and so did the amount of hours I had spare. I realized quickly that I was actually wasting time, unintentionally of course. I changed it as soon as I had the revelation.
  • Every spare moment I had, I did something to fill the gap. For example, I would put a load of laundry into the washing machine and tumble dryer and then go do something else. (I no longer wasted time ironing clothes, even though I love doing this while watching a movie). I didn’t need to babysit the machines and they would happily do what they were designed to do.
  • I also, cleaned the house during the week. Vacuuming after or before supper time, making sure not to miss out on the required daily tasks, which took precedence.
  • Things like bathing my daughter, homework, cleaning the kitchen and making the family’s lunch for the next day. I found that things like this is where my time wasting went. So I took a stand against my family and as my son puts it, went on a (permanent) strike.  This has proven to be the biggest sanity saver by far.

My day started filling up very quickly and I’m happy to say that I now have at least a few hours to a day spare at the end of the week. I get to choose if this day will be filled with lazing around, watching a movie or just browsing around the mall. It really doesn’t matter what I do on this day because it’s not predefined.

The beauty of the time I now have spare is, I get to choose who to devote that time to for that moment. Either way, someone (be it myself, my family or my friends) benefits.

I gave this challenge a few months before I decided to write about it. I wanted to test a few things…

  1. Would this be a momentary thing like a diet that starts out with every good intention and falls face first, failing miserably? or
  2. Would life get in the way? or
  3. Would I just revert back to my old ways therefore blowing said theory out the water? or
  4. Along the way, I questioned whether or not I would burn myself out and decide that it just wasn’t worth the effort? I suppose this is a big possibility because I was literally using up all my “free” time in a day.

I soon realized that I needed to have a cutoff time for when I would stop working or doing anything. I needed to still feel human at the end of the day. So, I decided that by 7:30…8pm for the latest, I would literally down tools. I normally end up going to bed between 9 and 10 at night. (If it were up to me, I would be in bed by 8).  I guess I can’t have it all.

The way I see it, before, I didn’t really have enough time to devote to my family. In fact, in time, I loathed the fact that I had to do “stuff” for them. This is not the way I “think” it should be when doing anything for someone you profess to love. However, I also believe that it most definitely works both ways. If my family professes to love me, then surely my happiness should matter just as much to them.

I can now finally think about doing things I love to do…I just need to figure out exactly what that is. Honestly though, making the move towards this feels very foreign to me, hence I haven’t successfully transitioned to that stage yet. But, I most definitely will…

I can see the benefits of the changes I’ve made, especially for my family. I feel better…I don’t have as many emotional outbursts, I don’t fight with the kids about trivial things in the morning. In fact, if I feel like I’m going to, I take a walk downstairs to my room and just take a few minutes to myself. I leave the time management in the morning up to my children. It’s a skill right?

The time I’ve “gained” is well spent doing what I love by either blogging or at the moment it’s devoted to starting a new book project.

In the process, I am finding time to get to know myself a little better. I’m loving the changes and wouldn’t give it up for anyone in the world.
If you are having trouble finding time you “think” you don’t have, why not give this a try?

You have nothing to lose and only time to gain…

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