“Enjoy life Today because Yesterday is in the past and Tomorrow is never promised…”

Enjoy life

These words are what I’ve been saying to myself on a continuous basis since a few days ago. I am a natural worry-head, procrastinator and generally think too far ahead into the future. I will be the first to admit, this has driven my stress levels up and on one too many occasions, has threatened to leave me at the brink of insanity. If I can’t predict the outcome of a situation, then I don’t feel comfortable. (With that said, I haven’t been too far off the mark quite a few times…just saying).

I normally analyze things to death purely because I feel like I need to be prepared for whatever comes my way (or might come my way).

I recently reminded myself of the words at the topic of today’s post. Why?…well I don’t really know. Maybe it’s God speaking to me or maybe I’ve just reached a point where I’ve really just had enough of the lemons life is handing me and simply can’t take it anymore.

Whichever it is, I’m going to give it a go.

So, here’s what I decided and what repeating these words to myself means:

Yesterday…it’s done and dusted. Nothing I try will bring it back and there’s no changing what did or didn’t happen…I need to accept that. I close my minds door on it and move on. Besides, dwelling on it might just deliver way too much regret for me to live with…leading to a constant downward spiral as I would have added some more baggage from all the yesterday’s gone before. Having this approach, reminds me of the movie 50 first dates with Drew Barrymore. She woke up each day having totally no recollection of the day before because it “never happened“. Imagine that!

Tomorrow
…well that hasn’t happened yet and it’s quite possibly in the “Too far ahead to think about” category. So I’m making a conscious decision not to think about it or plan for it. I might not even make it to tomorrow for all I know, which is why I accept that “Tomorrow is never promised“.

Today…now here’s the exciting part for me. It’s the start of a new yesterday. No matter what I didn’t manage to do yesterday, today gives me an opportunity to start all over. I get to try again or start something new. The way I see it, Today is filled with so much possibilities and opportunities. If I get to do at least one thing of value, then I will feel as if I have achieved something. At the moment, I’m trying to do this with at least every aspect of my life. For example:

At work

I try to do at least one thing that will add value to either the business or one of my colleagues. For instance, I ended up giving my laptop to a colleague as he will be working off-site for the next 2-3 weeks and we only had a Tablet spare. (For context, part of my job is providing IT support/Admin to the members of our greater team). It helps him to do what he needs to for the time that he’ll be away. It also solves a problem for management, no matter how big, small or insignificant.

As an example, I got this, this morning: “Morning, I have to compliment you. Wanted to do it before, but got busy and forgot. When you were handling the phones, I got my new one in two days. Every time I ask something you give a quick and proper response / advice. Thanks for that.
It’s these little “surprises” in my day that adds the value for me. It really doesn’t matter who I helped or what it is that I’ve done but a thank you such as this…warms my heart and nourishes my soul.

My family

I’ve been working on a new idea to improve our lives. It requires that I put in some time, energy and effort from my side to make sure I give it the best chance of success. It’s work in progress though…(I know it sounds a bit vague but if you were to try this, I’m sure you will be able to find something that will be relevant to your own situation). It might be that you do a small act for each member of your household to help them out. The best part is, you don’t even need to be creative when doing this because it’s all about making the next persons life a little easier through an act of love.

Myself

Even though I’ve put this last, it’s by no means least. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.

Because of this new way of thinking, I’m putting my own well-being first. I am important and as I said before, “I will be the first to admit, this has driven my stress levels up and on one too many occasions, has threatened to leave me at the brink of insanity“. By all accounts, reaching this point is not worth it…EVER!

It requires me to do much needed evaluation of my life in general and make the required changes for the better.

This doesn’t come so easy to me right now but I believe that I can get back on track by purely showing myself some much needed TLC. How often don’t we go through life putting others first and skimping on the love and care WE so rightly deserve? One thing that sticks in my mind is having heard people say “I’ve lost myself in the process” or “I don’t know who I am” or “I need to find myself“. I don’t want to be that person…

The way I see it, I’ve got nothing to lose and only myself to gain in the process.

What do you do to maintain balance and a level of sanity? Have you been successful in holding onto who YOU are?  More importantly, are you enjoying life Today?

 

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Make time for yourself, your life and your loved ones

Time

A few months ago, I read a post (Productivity Tip #2 – Schedule your time (and stick to it)), by my fellow blogger friend, Terence Brown of Help Grow Change

After reading, I set a challenge before myself and decided I would give it a go…In doing so, I found time I never knew I had!

I have always been one to do things for everyone else with never enough time or energy left for myself. I think there is a reason why today’s title is in the order that it’s set out. All 3 these things are important. How many times have you heard the saying, “You can’t do anything for anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first“?

Well, before I took on the challenge, I was of the strong opinion that “I don’t have time to do anything else“. So I made a few changes…

  • I changed my attitude towards not having any time to saying I have time.
  • My mindset changed and so did the amount of hours I had spare. I realized quickly that I was actually wasting time, unintentionally of course. I changed it as soon as I had the revelation.
  • Every spare moment I had, I did something to fill the gap. For example, I would put a load of laundry into the washing machine and tumble dryer and then go do something else. (I no longer wasted time ironing clothes, even though I love doing this while watching a movie). I didn’t need to babysit the machines and they would happily do what they were designed to do.
  • I also, cleaned the house during the week. Vacuuming after or before supper time, making sure not to miss out on the required daily tasks, which took precedence.
  • Things like bathing my daughter, homework, cleaning the kitchen and making the family’s lunch for the next day. I found that things like this is where my time wasting went. So I took a stand against my family and as my son puts it, went on a (permanent) strike.  This has proven to be the biggest sanity saver by far.

My day started filling up very quickly and I’m happy to say that I now have at least a few hours to a day spare at the end of the week. I get to choose if this day will be filled with lazing around, watching a movie or just browsing around the mall. It really doesn’t matter what I do on this day because it’s not predefined.

The beauty of the time I now have spare is, I get to choose who to devote that time to for that moment. Either way, someone (be it myself, my family or my friends) benefits.

I gave this challenge a few months before I decided to write about it. I wanted to test a few things…

  1. Would this be a momentary thing like a diet that starts out with every good intention and falls face first, failing miserably? or
  2. Would life get in the way? or
  3. Would I just revert back to my old ways therefore blowing said theory out the water? or
  4. Along the way, I questioned whether or not I would burn myself out and decide that it just wasn’t worth the effort? I suppose this is a big possibility because I was literally using up all my “free” time in a day.

I soon realized that I needed to have a cutoff time for when I would stop working or doing anything. I needed to still feel human at the end of the day. So, I decided that by 7:30…8pm for the latest, I would literally down tools. I normally end up going to bed between 9 and 10 at night. (If it were up to me, I would be in bed by 8).  I guess I can’t have it all.

The way I see it, before, I didn’t really have enough time to devote to my family. In fact, in time, I loathed the fact that I had to do “stuff” for them. This is not the way I “think” it should be when doing anything for someone you profess to love. However, I also believe that it most definitely works both ways. If my family professes to love me, then surely my happiness should matter just as much to them.

I can now finally think about doing things I love to do…I just need to figure out exactly what that is. Honestly though, making the move towards this feels very foreign to me, hence I haven’t successfully transitioned to that stage yet. But, I most definitely will…

I can see the benefits of the changes I’ve made, especially for my family. I feel better…I don’t have as many emotional outbursts, I don’t fight with the kids about trivial things in the morning. In fact, if I feel like I’m going to, I take a walk downstairs to my room and just take a few minutes to myself. I leave the time management in the morning up to my children. It’s a skill right?

The time I’ve “gained” is well spent doing what I love by either blogging or at the moment it’s devoted to starting a new book project.

In the process, I am finding time to get to know myself a little better. I’m loving the changes and wouldn’t give it up for anyone in the world.
If you are having trouble finding time you “think” you don’t have, why not give this a try?

You have nothing to lose and only time to gain…

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