New beginnings…I’m moving

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Skyewaters.com is born. If you enjoy reading what I have to write, then head on over to my new website. I’m excited about this new chapter in my life and would feel honoured if you’d continue walking on this journey with me.

This will be my last post on here and I look forward to seeing you on the other side.

I’ve been given my wings and am ready to fly…Blue butterfly

 

P.S. Let me know what you think of the new site.

I’m still alive..!

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It’s been 18 days since I last posted Hydrocephalus: Wow moments and leaving a legacy behind.

I am painfully aware that I haven’t put out another post since then and would like to apologise to you, my followers.   Life has gotten in the way but…in a good way.  I’m working on everything I wrote about in my last post and making sure I stay true to my mission in life…to leave a legacy behind and hopefully effect change.  Pretty soon, you’ll be visiting me at my new site and I’m super excited to share it with all of you and the rest of the world! (God willing…)

Aside from that, I have an exam, which I need to re-write next Saturday (4th of June), which has me a tad stressed as I haven’t found the time to do what I need to prepare for it fully.  On top of all that, I have fulltime work and family life, which all require my utmost attention and…now I feel like I’m just making excuses but hand on heart…it’s all true.

I am most thankful and happy to report that I am still managing to Stay afloat as my Hydrocephalus symptoms hasn’t given me any problems…touch wood!

All this makes me realise that life happens, and sometimes, it requires us to perform a juggling act of note.  Fortunately, I am passionate enough about this blog to see it through and promise – I won’t leave you hanging.

So this is me…signing out but not until I’ve personally told you – I’M STILL ALIVE..!

 

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Make time for yourself, your life and your loved ones

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A few months ago, I read a post (Productivity Tip #2 – Schedule your time (and stick to it)), by my fellow blogger friend, Terence Brown of Help Grow Change

After reading, I set a challenge before myself and decided I would give it a go…In doing so, I found time I never knew I had!

I have always been one to do things for everyone else with never enough time or energy left for myself. I think there is a reason why today’s title is in the order that it’s set out. All 3 these things are important. How many times have you heard the saying, “You can’t do anything for anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first“?

Well, before I took on the challenge, I was of the strong opinion that “I don’t have time to do anything else“. So I made a few changes…

  • I changed my attitude towards not having any time to saying I have time.
  • My mindset changed and so did the amount of hours I had spare. I realized quickly that I was actually wasting time, unintentionally of course. I changed it as soon as I had the revelation.
  • Every spare moment I had, I did something to fill the gap. For example, I would put a load of laundry into the washing machine and tumble dryer and then go do something else. (I no longer wasted time ironing clothes, even though I love doing this while watching a movie). I didn’t need to babysit the machines and they would happily do what they were designed to do.
  • I also, cleaned the house during the week. Vacuuming after or before supper time, making sure not to miss out on the required daily tasks, which took precedence.
  • Things like bathing my daughter, homework, cleaning the kitchen and making the family’s lunch for the next day. I found that things like this is where my time wasting went. So I took a stand against my family and as my son puts it, went on a (permanent) strike.  This has proven to be the biggest sanity saver by far.

My day started filling up very quickly and I’m happy to say that I now have at least a few hours to a day spare at the end of the week. I get to choose if this day will be filled with lazing around, watching a movie or just browsing around the mall. It really doesn’t matter what I do on this day because it’s not predefined.

The beauty of the time I now have spare is, I get to choose who to devote that time to for that moment. Either way, someone (be it myself, my family or my friends) benefits.

I gave this challenge a few months before I decided to write about it. I wanted to test a few things…

  1. Would this be a momentary thing like a diet that starts out with every good intention and falls face first, failing miserably? or
  2. Would life get in the way? or
  3. Would I just revert back to my old ways therefore blowing said theory out the water? or
  4. Along the way, I questioned whether or not I would burn myself out and decide that it just wasn’t worth the effort? I suppose this is a big possibility because I was literally using up all my “free” time in a day.

I soon realized that I needed to have a cutoff time for when I would stop working or doing anything. I needed to still feel human at the end of the day. So, I decided that by 7:30…8pm for the latest, I would literally down tools. I normally end up going to bed between 9 and 10 at night. (If it were up to me, I would be in bed by 8).  I guess I can’t have it all.

The way I see it, before, I didn’t really have enough time to devote to my family. In fact, in time, I loathed the fact that I had to do “stuff” for them. This is not the way I “think” it should be when doing anything for someone you profess to love. However, I also believe that it most definitely works both ways. If my family professes to love me, then surely my happiness should matter just as much to them.

I can now finally think about doing things I love to do…I just need to figure out exactly what that is. Honestly though, making the move towards this feels very foreign to me, hence I haven’t successfully transitioned to that stage yet. But, I most definitely will…

I can see the benefits of the changes I’ve made, especially for my family. I feel better…I don’t have as many emotional outbursts, I don’t fight with the kids about trivial things in the morning. In fact, if I feel like I’m going to, I take a walk downstairs to my room and just take a few minutes to myself. I leave the time management in the morning up to my children. It’s a skill right?

The time I’ve “gained” is well spent doing what I love by either blogging or at the moment it’s devoted to starting a new book project.

In the process, I am finding time to get to know myself a little better. I’m loving the changes and wouldn’t give it up for anyone in the world.
If you are having trouble finding time you “think” you don’t have, why not give this a try?

You have nothing to lose and only time to gain…

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What are we doing to each other?

viewI look around and see the beauty of the place that I now find myself in. However, that beauty means nothing in a world cluttered with hate, crime and copious amounts of destruction.

What has this world become? When did life lose its value and become something no more than a piece of garbage? People kill each other as if it’s a piece of dirt they’re tossing into the trash can…worthless and of no use to anyone. Communities are ripped apart by selfish hatred of others purely because of what they believe in, the colour of their skin or what their forefathers had to endure at the hands of others. The cycle goes on and on and seems an endless pit of never ending pain.

Man is truly its own worst enemy.
I’ve come to realize that this life is dumb and somehow we, as humans, miss the point of what it’s all about. What future do we offer to our children when we bring them into such a broken world? I too am guilty for having brought my kids into this world…

Clouded by the euphoria of having a new baby, a little extension of who I am to carry on my name. Well…what is that name worth if it only gets a short time to reign? Or, even worse, has to endure any form of pain at the hands of another. A thought I cannot stand to bear…

Imagine a world where none of this crap existed. Where people live in peace and harmony and life is sustained by giving life without concern. I left my home country purely for the fact that I feared for my children’s safety. It was a fear that, literally, drove me to the point of no return. Do I regret the decision I made? Well…yes and no. I now live fearing for the family I left behind, wanting them to be safe more than anything in this world.

I feel as if I am in limbo. But, more than that, I feel anger. I am angry at the idiots who run countries, who allow the violence and crime to continue and allow the state of people’s lives to perish at the hands of their greedy evil ways. A day has 24 hours and there are 365 days in a year. Do they really have a leg to stand on in saying these decisions and “change” take time? I call Bullshit!

Is it really about money? Man has found a way to make money out of paper and coins, and attach value to it. It’s just dumb to say there’s no money to help the world out of its pain.

We have even been blessed with skills to heal and fix the broken and ailing, yet medical care depends on what you can afford to pay. Public systems, which actually help people without charge are drowning under the predetermined processes and stupid system of how that care is administered. But that, in itself, is even more bullshit and in the end it’s us who suffer.

The country I live in now has one simple “way of life”, which I believe is part of their secret to success. People don’t interfere with the next one. Bad things still happen here but the scale is nowhere near to what I personally have witnessed. If you see something of value, which doesn’t belong to you, you leave it alone. This is the simple rule I teach my kids. When we came to this country, they jokingly said things like, “let’s steal it“. It broke my heart because this is what they had come to know.
I am happy to say, with time, they don’t have that mentality or desire. They have changed their ways and see the world differently for the better. If only others could adopt that same mentality. It’s a small step but one in the right direction, I believe.

If man can also realize one thing…we are never free. No-one is…

We are held captive by the fact that we sell what is most precious in life…our time. We (majority of people) go to work, do what we do for the greater good of someone else (your boss or company shareholders). The time we get to spend with our family in the end is limited and goes by so quickly. That time in itself, is predefined by the jobs we hold to pay for anything of value we do together…without it, we have nothing.

Life is only for the rich and wealthy…most of us yearn for that and go through life sadly never attaining it. Yet, we remain hopeful…holding our breath for “One Day“.

Bearing witness to the torture surrounding us all, around this world, I can’t help but pray for an end to mankind. It seems the easiest solution.  I suppose it’s normal to question the existence of God when all these things have been going on for years without end. People have lost faith, some never had it and others…well I guess it’s just easier to go on day by day pretending that all is well with the world because it doesn’t affect them directly…YET.

I don’t have the answer to it all but I would take a guess that if mankind changed their mentality and actually made an attempt to making a success of this thing we call life…I reckon we could see a change. Why should there be rich, poor or homeless people? Why does life have to be governed by what benefits others and not all of us? Why are there classes of distinction and why, oh why, is there a need for greed, revenge and crime?

I feel ultimately helpless in the whole equation and yet, it is with great conviction that I say…To hell with all extremists and inflictors of misery and pain. More importantly I say this, to anyone who actually has the power to change the state of the world and yet stands by watching it burn to the ground…To hell with you!

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